How could that be?
Because if there's any chance of his facing himself for real,
it will come when he "hits bottom" and realizes what
his behavior has cost him.
These men have very "thick" defenses against facing
their own behavior, and they need a shock. Think of it as "tough
love" you might have to give a difficult adolescent.
Many abusers will not face themselves but will rather quickly
replace you with the next willing woman. While that's tragic for
her, your concern about his survival is taken care of. The sad
truth is that these men are all too good at finding the caretaking
they're convinced that they need.
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